Saturday, September 5, 2015

Check Yoself Before You Wreck Yoself

I have been known to be the guys girl.  I have several male friends and always have.  I am cool, laid back, not hard on the eyes (toot toot), love football, fond of the random pointless cuss word and can even toss them back with the best of them.  This was a bit of problem in high school which was often perceived as being more than it was which made girls play on my phone and whisper behind my back.  Now 15 years later I am still comfortable with men and love to be around them. Most of my male/guy friends have been around since high school (circa 1994).  We have grown up, apart and together again in this time.  Several are in relationships, some are married or just involved but point is I know my role in their lives.  I try to be as respectful as possible often introducing myself to their others when possible.  I like to ensure them that I am not that chick and that I know my place.  I do my best to never confuse what our friendship is but do try to be a good friend.  I do not do a bunch of calling, texting or asking for time.  I do randomly check in via text, call and sometimes facebook (if  we are allowed to be friends on the book). 

All of this to say...

I need my friend's girlfriends, wives, baby mommas, main chicks, jump offs, chicks that think that they are #1, cuddle buddies, f-partners, one night stands etc to ALL play their roles and stay in their lanes.  I need them to go to their dude when they believe that they have  a problem.  I need them to stay off my phone, out of my text messages and my fb inbox with the BS.  CHECK YOSELF!  I need these broads to not be grown doing the same mess that was not even ok in high school.  CHECK YOSELF!  I need these so called women to grow up and stop being so insecure that they feel the need to play on the phone and inquire about their male companion.  I need them to realize that all of this keeping track of a man is not worth it and that some women do not feel obligated to play this game of check up. CHECK YOSELF! I do not wish to play this game and I would so sincerely appreciate it if women that are oh so insecure, women that are not  completely involved,, women that are mothers and should be taking care of their children oppose to screening calls/ text messages, forwarding his phone calls to her phone so that they can keep track of all his comings and going, who he is conversing with and why.  Who actually has time for that? CHECK YOSELF! 

You better check yo self before you wreck yo self - I cannot appreciate the foolery and just needed to get this bit off my chest. 


JStar said...

AMEN AMEN AMEN....Where will it get you to even go to the woman anyways...Take it up with YOUR man or whatever...YES YES...and STAY in YOUR designated lane...Know your role :) I 100% agree with you!!!

Traci Lavette said...

BFF...Glad to see you're writing again.

I have never been that girl to go chasin behind a man and checkin all in his shit and things like that. BUT...I will say that being a friend, sister, cousin, confidante, to a few that have, it is sometimes not as easy as the two of you make it out to be.

BFF, I remember a post you did some time ago about being attracted to the man that had a woman and while you said in that post that you would never cross that line, and never have (I believe that with my whole heart, by the way), the fact of the matter is - you were having those thoughts. You felt that she didn't appreciate what she had in him. Now, a female can only go off what a man tells her and often gets caught up because of it. Then imagine exhausting all your options with him, still having the doubt, contacting the female, only to have that chick lie for him. Happens all the time. Not saying that any of it is right because it's not. But please don't act like shit is always platonic when it's not and like some women don't have anything to worry about because they do. I'm just sayin'

Love ya!

Freckles said...

JStar... Yes.

BFF, I hear you but that is the very problem. Who has the time to do all of that? I hear you and I guess I am not as sympathetic to that woman who feels the need to harrass others behind her situation. I understand that there are times when it is not completely platonic and I get that but that is not my fault. That would be something to deal with as far as that man. You have an option of choice and if you feel that you have to go through all of that in order to keep that man in line what is the purpose? I even understand the entire confrontation aspect to an extent but to resort to calling and hangin up and then calling talking shit and then hanging up, calling from his phone and then saying something when I answer... the games. That is the part that I cannot get with.

tha unpretentious narcissist© said...

lol..."I need these broads to not be grown doing the same mess that was not even ok in high school. CHECK YOSELF!"

i'm saying. i need them to check themselves for real.

Freckles said...

just a sequel to me not being that chick but Imma need folks to quit trying me.

Newy said...

Love it! LOL yep...they need to POOF be gone...he is the one they are dealing with that is where they need to address any issues they may have.

Freckles said...

Thanks for reading. I just dont want folks coming for me..

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