Wednesday, January 18, 2012

Head, Anyone?

Head. Give. Get. Take. Ask or Not.
DISCLAIMER:  This is a touchy subject and I thought long and hard (no pun intended) about stimulating this conversation amongst adults but I deem it necessary.  Again, this is only one interpretation that should offer some assistance and thought to all parties.  Some will agree and others will disagree – all are ok and accepted.  This is a two sided conversation and is more than the initial attention grabber.  Please take into consideration that this conversation is meant for mature adults that can handle all verbiage being used.  Thank you and shall we proceed.
Speak into the mic, just kiss it or lick it a little bit, puff the pipe – it won’t make you choke, say hello to my lil friend (yes some are smaller than others), blow the whistle, it won’t get hard if you don’t help it out,  or simply can I get some head?  All said while trying to guide head to head.  I am sure that there are several ladies that could create a list that would both be ridiculous and ironic.  It is amazing the things that some men come up with saying in order to get some “head”.  I do not understand some men’s desire or need to ask for some head, penis suckage or fellatio. 

There is nothing wrong with a little head.  We all like to receive it but honestly we don’t all like to give it.  Most importantly there are women that don’t always think that it is the sexiest thing to do.  Some like it, love, adore it, can’t stand it and would rather just do it regular.  Generally the point of us hooking up would be for enjoyment unless you’re selfish which many are (both sides).  It should not have to be negotiated after all, we all profess to be adults right? Don’t get me wrong I get it.  I understand that it feels good and possibly looks very sexy to feel the warmth and wetness along with the softness of her lips along your man muscle. The pleasure of laying back, relaxing and not having to take control of the sexual situation.  I get it.  I also understand that is a part of sex and yes I like it done to me of course when done correctly.  Both, like less biting and teeth used – we agree. However, question is why ask or why are you ok with asking for some head?

For some, oral sex is more intimate than actual intercourse and is a bigger leap of faith.  After all its all right there and it’s your mouth and we both… well, we will just say that it is something to think about if you are a not so clean person.  We don’t always ask the necessary questions outside of are you disease free.  Does she brush her teeth or take care of her mouth – does he use soap and clean down under his balls?  And vice versa. I mean really – we all need to be a bit more selective and more concerned.  The world is a very crazy place these days. {JUST A THOUGHT – you cannot suck or lick on every or anybody}.  Then there is the matter of what am I getting out of the deal especially if we are not a long term situation?  Seriously, after you nut, if you get to that point, do you have come back, is that it, will you be returning the favor and do you expect this all the time? I would like to believe that it can be more of the preliminary step, a kind of foreplay, rather than the main event and it’s not always done accordingly but each and every situation is different.  Govern yourself according.

Just a few thoughts that run through mind quickly after the initial inquiry but my main point of thought is, Why are you even asking?  I don’t get that.  It seems like if it is going to happen it’s going to happen and it should not be expected but moreso appreciated. If we are random to each other or not necessarily exclusive what makes it be necessary.  After all if it didn’t automatically happen, what makes you think that you are worth the service?  Now, I don’t want to hurt any feelings or even offend anyone but did you consider that this service is given to some and only a privilege to others or that you just don’t meet the desire.  A woman will initiate her desires, please believe – have you thought about that?  Have you ever sat back and considered the willingness of some and the reluctance of others.  Think about it!!!  I have often wondered if the inquiry comes from a selfish a place or is it one of those activities that should be added to my resume under the skill section.  Should a chick be flattered that you thought of her enough to ask her to suck you off or get you started?  Should she feel privileged that you say that she is so good that you just want it all the time?  Should she think that it is in the best interest of her health and womanhood to proceed or that you may not attracted otherwise?  When you ask do you consider that you may be taking the joy or desire from her?  Do you even think with your actual head before asking for head?

It’s funny that this seems to be an ongoing debate or even a conversation that is always not agreed upon.  It’s one of those touchy subjects that is sometimes felt uncalled for or uncivilized.  Us all being grown has nothing to do with giving or even receiving.  It is the comfort to all parties involved.  The real inquiry here is we don’t all think about what we are doing before we do it.  We do not always take into consideration the reactions to our actions.  Like a man once told me pouting, sulking and dropping hints are not good strategies when you don’t get your way.  True gratification is mental so please give it some head.


sunshinestar110 said...

My friends and I were just having the head discussion the other day. I was surprised at how many of them enjoyed preforming it...I on the other hand can not say that I do. I also don't think none of us even think twice about where that penis has been or what we are putting in our mouths....reading this just made me think......

Freckles said...

I dont really have an issue with it but I just feel like If I am gonna, Im gonna and sometimes that asking in all the colorful ways is jut not all that sexy to me.

I think folks are so casual about things these days that we dont always put any real thought with our or regarding... head.

neotenic said...

My initial thought as to why guys ask is because most guys think that if he doesn't ask he wont get it. "Closed mouth dont get fed." To me, if enough fore thought and conversation has gone into it, asking should not be an issue, but rather an unspoken expectation and delight. I love giving it as much as I love receiving it maybe even more. I also think its just the difference between a man and a woman. We are built different, therefore we think different. I would love for a woman to ask me to give her head! Again I say, enough conversation has to happen to build a comfort level to my reaction to such request. I think more woman should give head unsolicited, especially in a monogamous relationship. Speaking on behalf of most guys, we love it! And enjoy it when its done right. Dont treat the "D" like a stranger. Caress it, talk to it, and sometimes woman-handle it.

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