Effective Communication
"I open my heart and mind to be aware that when I am listening to myself,
I cannot hear other people."
We are taught that communication is a two-way process. Consequently, we are not aware that there are
three essential elements. There is talking, there is listening and there is
hearing. We talk a great deal because we have much to say. In fact, we talk so
much we often miss the point someone else is trying to make. Our talk about our
past experience is loaded with perceptions and judgments. When we are
listening, what we hear gets filtered through the same. We do talk, and we can
listen. What challenges most of us is learning how to hear.
If you really want to hear someone when they trust you enough to talk to you,
don't listen to the words, hear how the words are spoken. All too often, we
cannot hear the words because we come to the conversation with our own ideas
about who people are. At the same time, we are determined not to let them see
who we are. In order for effective and valued communication to occur, you must
believe that you are safe, and you must offer that same safety to the other
person. If you want to communicate with
another person, you must hear their fear and not dismiss it. You must hear a
person's pain and not overlook it. It is important to hear a person's guilt and
not buy into it. You must be ready to hear a person's anger and not fuel it.
Most people need to know that they have been heard. Listen to their body.
Listen to the volume. Listen to the tempo. If you really want to hear someone,
open your heart and listen to their soul.
In the past, you may not have been able to hear what people are saying to you.
However, make an effort to close your eyes when you are in a conversation. Hear
every word that is spoken through the center of your heart.
Thought for today:
We know that God
washes away our sins. This same God also washes away our tears.
1 comment:
Listening is like everything else in our life's, it's a skill, and It takes practice. People practice on their communication skills, but forget about listening. They think because sound come into your ear, the words are automatically understood. And when you are with someone as long as I have been with my spouse, you have to practice even more, because taken for granted that you know what they are saying or going to say, make you half listen, then suddenly your find your relationship in shambles. We learn everyday. The more you learn, the more you change how you think. Which means you communicate different then before. I have noticed that most people listen, only so they can speak about what is on their mind. They don't take in the words spoken and dwell on them, they just take them in...
peace and love
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