For Your HEAD Service

WARNING: This is a touchy subject and I thought long and hard (no pun intended) about stimulating this conversation amongst adults but I deem it necessary. Again, this is only one interpretation that should offer some assistance and thought to all parties. Some will agree and others will disagree – all are ok and accepted. This is a two sided conversation and is more than the initial attention grabber. Please take into consideration that this conversation is meant for mature adults that can handle all verbiage being used. If you are sensitive to sexual matters, please do not read this post. Thank you.

Shall we proceed?

Speak into the mic, just kiss it or lick it a little bit, puff the pipe – it won’t make you choke, say hello to my lil friend (yes some are smaller than others), blow the whistle, it won’t get hard if you don’t help it out, or simply can I get some head? 

All said while trying to guide head to head. I am sure that there are several ladies that could create a list that would both be ridiculous and ironic.  It is amazing the things that some men come up with in order to get some “head”.  I do not understand some men’s desire or need to ask for some head, penis suckage or fellatio. Now do not get me wrong there is nothing wrong with a little head.  It is, depending on the situation and/or relationship, essential to a moment.  Let’s all be honest here. We all like to receive it but honestly we don’t all like to give it or give our best. Most importantly there are women that don’t always think that it is the sexiest thing to do. Some like it, love, adore it, can’t stand it and would rather just do it regular.  Generally the point of “hooking up” would be for enjoyment unless he’s selfish, which many are (both sides).  Back to the point.  Head shouldn’t be a negotiation or a bargaining tool.  One shouldn’t feel the need to beg for it or act as if it is life or death without.  Yeah, I said it and some just make it feel that way especially when we all profess to be adult, right?

Don’t get me wrong, I get it, to an extent.  I understand that it feels real good. I understand that it may possibly look very sexy to watch and feel the warmth and wetness along with the softness of her lips along your man muscle. [GO AHEAD, HAVE A MOMENT OF SILENCE].  The pleasure of laying back, relaxing and not having to take control of the sexual situation.  I get it.  I also understand that it is a part of sex and yes head is to be enjoyed by most but of course when done correctly [STICK A PEN IN THAT WE MAY NEED TO REVISIT THAT ANOTHER TIME]. Both, like less biting and teeth used – we agree. However, question is why must you ask or use some sort of not so sexy verbiage to insinuate your desire?  Why are you ok with asking for head in the first place?

For some oral sex is more intimate than actual intercourse and is a bigger leap of faith. After all it is all right there and it’s your mouth and we both… well, we will just say that it is something to think about if you are a not so  and/or fresh person. We don’t always ask the necessary questions outside of are you disease free. Does she brush her teeth or take care of her mouth – does he use soap and clean down under his balls? And such as. I mean really – we all need to be a bit more selective and more concerned. The world is a very crazy place these days. [JUST A THOUGHT – you cannot suck or lick on every and/or anybody]. Then there is the matter of what am I getting out of the deal especially if we are not a long term situation? Seriously, after you nut, if you get to that point, do you have come back, is that it or will you be returning the favor and do you expect this all the time? I would like to believe that it can be more of the preliminary step, a kind of foreplay, rather than the main event and it’s not always done accordingly but each and every situation is different. Govern yourself accordingly.

Just a few thoughts that run through mind quickly after the initial inquiry but my main point of thought is, why are you even asking? I don’t get that. It seems like if it is going to happen it’s going to happen and it should not be expected but moreso appreciated.  If we are random to each other or not necessarily exclusive what makes it be necessary.  After all if it didn’t automatically happen, what makes you think that you are worth the service? Now, I don’t want to hurt any feelings or even offend anyone but did you consider that this service is given to some and only a privilege to others or that you just don’t meet the desire.  Sometimes it just doesn’t feel right or feel pleasured upon the part of the giver.  A woman will initiate her desires, please believe – have you thought about that? Have you ever sat back and considered the willingness of some and the reluctance of others. Think about it!!!

I have often wondered if the inquiry comes from a selfish a place or is it one of those activities that should be added to my resume under the skill section.  Should a chick be flattered that you thought of her enough to ask her to suck you off or get you started? Should she feel privileged that you say that she is so good that you just want it all the time? Should she think that it is in the best interest of her health and womanhood to proceed or that you may not be attracted and/or interested otherwise? Did you have Wendys or did you have McCormick and Schmitt's? When you ask do you consider that you may be taking the joy or desire from her? Do you even think with your actual head before asking for head?

It’s funny that this seems to be an ongoing debate or even a conversation that is always not agreed upon. It’s one of those touchy subjects that is sometimes felt uncalled for or uncivilized.  Us all being grown has nothing to do with giving or even receiving.  It is the comfort to all parties involved. The real inquiry here is not asking for head but the matter we don’t all think about what we are doing before we do it. DID YOU CATCH THAT?

We do not always take into consideration the reactions to our actions in advance or thought. Like a man once told me pouting, sulking and dropping hints are not good strategies when you don’t get your way. True gratification is mental so please give it some head.

Slippery When Wet

Some ease their way into running, conversations, diets, exercise, loneliness while some ease their way into relationships. There is always a need for ease. Ease your way into it. In fact most times it's completely necessary to take your time. Make the time to make it be profoundly appreciated. Unfortunately it's not always this way. We live in this microwave society. We live in this instant and immediate culture of everything being done fast. A society of get right to it with no regard for direction or even a start up. Some (not all but more than a few) do not put forth the complete effort to follow and flow the process to achieve. Those "some" have become comfortably complacent with the mere concern of self = self centered, self conscious and simply selfish. Far too often we are all guilty of putting self in the way of the start-up but there is hope that we can converse upon this subject for rectification.

Slippery When Wet.

So rather than tip toeing around the subject let me be direct. There are some men that do not realize that a woman needs to be inspired, encouraged, desired to get the party started. There are men that may feel the same way but I am a woman so I can only speak from my female point of view. We both are guilty of not taking the time to work together for the greater pleasure. We don't always allow ourselves to give into the moment. Allow some instruction, direction or mere suggestion to make pleasure be mutually beneficial. Sometimes there should be some ease and concern for what your partner may or may not like. What makes her feel good, sexy and/or interested in participating but it is not an immediate situation. That's where the need for ease is sincerely and genuinely a must. After all you wouldn't just get into the car and go when it's cold right? You must warm it up first before it goes where you steer to your destination. A woman is the same way. She needs to be warmed up and steered. Anyone that has ever owned a car understands that they are gentle much like women and need ease, care and attention to function. After all who wants to deal with poor lubricants or engine stalls?

Keep in mind it's slippery when wet.

If you didn't follow me there, flow with me this way. HOTSPOTS. Internet hotspots. The signal is stronger in some areas than others and sometimes you gotta try something different to obtain maximum exposure. There are times when one doesn't have their own internet connection and another may. One may be able to reach another's signal. However one may need to move around or change their routine or point of connection to obtain another's signal… ya dig? The same can be said for a woman. There are different hotspots on her that may cause a different response. It's all in the point of connection necessary for the warm up. Think about it. When you turn on your computer, laptop, cell phone, IPODs, IPADS etc. it generally takes a moment to start up before it connects so that you can use it correct?

It can get so slippery when wet.

So if you take nothing from this, please keep in mind that there is a need for ease to warm up the hot spots with possible different methods for pleasure. In order to proceed to the wet, it must be encouraged and it can't always just be about he when there are two involved. Though it is a fact that it can be done with one, it's better with two. Two hands, two lips and two people. A woman is a gentle being and should be guided in that manner. If you give into some of the above it will be slippery when wet. Someone needed this info and now you can proceed to your previously scheduled posting.